Monday, April 15, 2019

Body language

Body language

Updated : July  5 , 2019


 “A species’ survival depends critically upon its ability to communicate effectively, and the quality of its social life is determined in large measure by how and what it can communicate.”
~Robert M. Krauss 


Non verbal communication, Listen to a person  When they look at you , not just when they  are talking to you.
Listen to a person When they look at you .

Body language or non verbal communication :


Communication is not only what you say or hear . Your eye gaze, hand movements, sitting and standing styles, facial expressions all these things include in communication. And this communication is known as Body language or non verbal communication. 

Non-verbal communication includes :

facial expressions, the tone and pitch of the voice, and gestures displayed through body language.


What body language reveals :

 It can often tell people exactly how you feel, even if you have hardly said a word. Body language is the unspoken element of communication. Body language isn’t always as clear as spoken language , But it reveal  a lot about people .It reveals our true feelings and emotions.  .Understanding  about body language can help to interpret unspoken issues. The things we don’t say still convey volumes of information. 


Non verbal communication or body language, what body language reveals? Image
Body language reveals unspoken truths. 


Communication through body language :

Some estimates suggest that 7 percent we communicate through words and 93 percent nonverbally or through our body language .
But some studies says that body language may account for between 50 percent to 70 percent of all communication. 
Different studies show different results, but whatever they show , it is truth that body language reveal more abut people than verbal language. 

Facial expressions :

Facial expressions are among the most universal forms of body language. The expressions used to convey fear, anger, sadness, and happiness are similar throughout the world.


Learn to read eyes, because lips often lie .
Learn  to read eyes because lips often lie. 


Postures: 

Posture can convey a wealth of information about how a person is feeling as well as hints about personality characteristics, such as whether a person is confident, open, or submissive.
People tend to have much less conscious control over their nonverbal messages than of what they actually saying .Because nonverbal communication is  much more emotional in nature .



Body language or non verbal communication, let us hear your body talk.
Body language reveal more than words.


Non-verbal communication may also be both conscious and unconscious. Facial expressions are particularly hard to control, because we cannot see ourselves to know what we are doing. We may, therefore complicate communication by trying to convey one message consciously, while in fact conveying quite another unconsciously.

Michael Argyle identifies 

Five main functions of non-verbal communication:

  •  To express emotions, 
  • Communicate interpersonal relationships
  • Support verbal interaction
  • Reflect personality 
  •  Perform rituals, such as greetings and goodbyes.


How to enhance verbal and non verbal communication :

 Verbal communication is enhanced when a person is an effective listener. Listening doesn’t simply mean hearing; it means  understanding another person’s point of view.

Watching other people’s body language, facial expressions and intonations, and being conscious of your own physicality and feelings can enhance non-verbal communication.
Copy the people you are spending time with and you want to attract them, this strategy is called mirroring .When talking to someone try to copy their facial expressions , gestures and body language.

Maintain eye contact with those who you want to attract. Follow 80/20 rule while talking to someone.  It means ,maintain 80 percent eye contact and 20 percent you can see your surroundings.

Carry a decent smile  . It improves your face value.

Make sure your body language is open ,(No close arms, or cross feet) it indicates that you are relaxed, calm, and confident .

However , the same gesture can indicate a number of different things depending on context.

Our success as an individuals depends upon our ability to effectively communicate, both verbally and non-verbally.

Thanks for reading! 

Source :
1:https://www.livestrong.com/article/150573-what-is-verbal-communication/
2:https://www.skillsyouneed.com/ips/nonverbal-communication.html
3:https://www.verywellmind.com/understand-body-language-and-facial-expressions-4147228

Thursday, April 4, 2019

What are emotions?

What are emotions?

Updated :24 Jan 2023 

What are emotions? 


Most of the time we don’t have exact words to explain what we are actually  feeling . And it is quite difficult to differentiate emotions and feelings. 
The words “emotions, feelings, and moods” are often used interchangeably. But actually they are not the  same . Emotions are related to, but different from, mood ..

Are emotions and feeling both the same thing?

Emotions are a physiological response to a stimulus, such as happiness, anger, or fear. They are relatively short-lived and specific to a particular event or situation. Feelings, on the other hand, are the conscious experience of emotions and can be more long-lasting and broader in scope. Feelings may also include thoughts, beliefs, and judgments about an emotion.


 Emotions :

  are specific physical reactions to a particular event. Their general purpose is to produce involuntary bodily response to a stimulus. That are usually of fairly short duration. 
No matter how friendly and caring a person you are , or you want to be, your brain keep saying you things that aren’t so kind when your emotions are triggered

The brain responds to stimuli long before your conscious brain can choose. Your immediate reactions often produce bad results and then instead of trying to undo what happened, you quickly find reasons to justify your behaviour.
If you want to manage your emotions,  start looking inside instead of outside .

Psychologists identify twenty-seven Categories of emotion: 

Admiration, adoration, aesthetic appreciation, amusement, anger, anxiety, awe, awkwardness, boredom, calmness, confusion, contempt, craving, disappointment, disgust, empathic pain, entrancement, envy, excitement, fear, guilt, horror, interest, joy, nostalgia, pride, relief, romance, sadness, satisfaction, sexual desire, surprise, sympathy and triumph.

Five main purposes of emotions : 


Emotions help us
  •  To take action.
  •  To survive.
  • Strike and avoid danger.
  • To make decisions.
  •  To understand others. Moreover, they help other people to understand us.

~Kendra Cherry (Psychology Expert)

Feelings

are mental associations and reactions to an emotion. They are coloured by our personal experiences and believes. 


When you say, "I feel anxious, angry, happy...", you are interpreting emotion by how it feels in your body.

Types of feelings :
There are only three types of feelings


  • pleasant
  • Unpleasant
  •  Neutral


What are emotions, difference between emotions and feelings, list of emotions and feelings.
Feelings vs emotions  

Is Feelings and emotions are the same thing? 

In response to specific stimuli The emotion comes first and it  is universal. What kind of feelings it will then become varies from person to person and from situation to situation because feelings are shaped by individual temperament and experience. 
 Emotions are event-driven, while feelings are learned behaviours .

  • Joy is an emotion. 

Happiness is a feeling. 
  • Fear is an emotion. 

Worry is a feeling. 
  • Enthusiasm is an emotion. 

Contentment is a feeling.
  • Anger is an emotion.

Bitterness is a feeling.
  • Attraction is an emotion.

Love is a feeling.



Expressing all types of emotions, even negative emotions, is natural and healthy.

Ending words :


An event or  stimulus cause emotions and emotions cause feelings .But same emotions generate different feelings in different people. 

I hope now you can fully understand emotions , and differentiate emotions and feelings well .

Thanks for reading! 


Sources :

https://www.laughteronlineuniversity.com/feelings-and-emotions/

https://inpowercoaching.com/tame-your-emotional-triggers/

https://imotions.com/blog/emotions-matter/

Friday, March 22, 2019

Right brain vs left brain

Right brain vs left brain


Left brain right brain theory :


The brain contains two hemispheres each  hemisphere perform a number of
 functions .
These hemispheres are called right brain and left brain. The two sides of the brain communicate with one another through  corpus callosum.

Functions of right and left brain :


The left side of the brain is responsible for controlling the right side of your body .And right side of the brain is responsible for controlling left side of your body . That's why damage to the left side of the brain, might have an effect on the right side of the body. 

I am right brain :


 I’m creative, I’m ,imaginative I think a lot  (holistic thinking)
some times I feel things before it happen (intuition) I love rhyming and rhythms,  l feel things deeply ( feelings) I  can visualise things . I believe more in nonverbal things .
some times I start daydreaming you know why???  because my Right brain dominate left brain.

I am Left brain:


Deal with logic , analysis , Mathematics , languages , thinking in words , computation  .
People who use left and right brain together or equally are  genius and happy. 

Right brain vs left brain theory and interesting facts about human brain.

Right brain vs left brain image
 source :
Vision board blog


Left brain ,right brain theory is myth :


Later research has shown that the brain is not nearly as divided into two parts  as once thought. For example, research has shown that abilities in subjects such as math are strongest when both halves of the brain work together. Today, neuroscientists know that the two sides of the brain collaborate to perform a broad variety of tasks and that the two hemispheres communicate through the corpus callosum.

“It’s absolutely true that some brain functions occur in one or the other side of the brain. Language tends to be on the left, attention more on the right. But people don’t tend to have a stronger left- or right-sided brain network."  
~Dr. Jeff Anderson. 

 While the idea of right brain/left brain thinkers has been revealed, its popularity still persists. 

Logical and imaginative brain :


Humans have 1/3 logical brain ,2/3 imaginative brain. 

Weight and connections of human brain :


It’s weight is approximately 3 pounds, it contains about 100 billion neurons, and 100 trillion connections.

Some facts about human brain :


  • 60% of your brain is composed of fat , making it most fattiest organ  of body.  
  • Your heart and brain are composed of  73%  of water .
  • The brain comprises about 2% of the body’s weight but it  consume 20% of it’s energy. 

Ending note :

By understanding functions of  your left brain and right brain’s weaknesses and strengths you can improve your wellbeing ,  and performance. 


source :

1: Left brain vs. right brain :
https://www.verywellmind.com

2:drinkbrainbean
https://www.instagram.com/drinkbrainbean/

Wednesday, March 13, 2019

How to control your negative thoughts?

How to control your negative thoughts?

Updated : 22 August 2021


In this article you are going to read how to control or overcome negative thoughts. 

William James quote about thinking, when you make a picture in your mind, you can achieve that thing in reality , law in psychology.
 Quote on thinking by William James




There is a law in Psychology   that if you form a picture in your mind of what you would like to be, and you keep and hold that picture there long enough, you will soon become exactly as you have been thinking.

Your thoughts define you :

Your believes and thoughts define your whole existence. You don’t really live in reality,  your thoughts create  your reality. 
Thoughts are  generally shaped by genetics,  life  experiences , education, environment,  the company you keep , the stuff you read . . .
"Every thought we think is creating our future."

Your thoughts have power :


Your thoughts and  believes  have power to change your physiology and neurology. Your thoughts can make you feel  powerful or powerless. The thoughts you hold become things . "The quality of your thinking determines
 the quality of your life ".


How to control your negative thoughts.
Be kind to yourself. 

How many thoughts you have per day :

Scientists estimated that humans have about 70,000 thoughts per day.
That means  you have  about 70,000 chances to change your life per day ,
 by   changing  and controlling your negative  thoughts.

 But question is , how to control your negative thoughts?  

Don't let your thoughts control you.
Don’t let your thoughts control you. 


1Be aware of your thoughts , you can save yourself from  it’s adverse effects by keeping yourself constructively occupied  or by diverting your thoughts to something positive. Take care of your thoughts 
You think about every thing but not about your thoughts.
Don’t  host your own pity party , by thinking negative.  So be kind to your mind , you deserve good things , take the first step to change your whole existence  by changing your negative thought in to positive one.

"The mind is its own place and in itself, can make Heaven of Hell, a Hell of Heaven."
~John Milton  

Psychology says be kind to your mind. Make up your mind don't  be the victim of negative thoughts.
Be kind to yor mind , don't be the victim of your  negative thoughts .


2: What I believe controlling your thoughts are not much difficult as compare to facing negative people around you. 
 So try to avoid negative people, those who have problem for every solution. Because their vibes vibrate (provoke) your negative thoughts. 

But problem is , you have to deal with these type of people often in your life so what to do ?

I don’t exactly know  what should be done in such a situation ?  But what I think, believe, and learned from my experiences , listen to them and agree with them , but deep down  hold on your beliefs and positivity.  

3: learn something new every day. That will help you to overcome thoughts of uselessness. It could be as little as opening a new level of a game.  There are lots of free educational apps on Google play store  that will help you grow, and increase your knowledge. 

4: Spend time with like minded people. 
It will help to maintain your positivity and believe that still good people exist.
Surroundyourself with :
  • The inspired. 
  • The motivated. 
  • The open minded. 
  • The passionate. 
  • The great full. 
Be so busy  with these five , so you wouldn't have any time to pay attention on the negativity , haters and negative people are spreading.

5:  Don't believe everything you think .
Even having negative thoughts is  not a problem, actually problem is you believe them.
Remember,  perception is always greater than reality. What you think might be merely your perception , it could be wrong . So why so serious? 

There are so many other  ways .You only need “will power”  to do any thing .

 These above ideas I personally use , you can tell me your ideas regarding how you control or  overcome your negative thoughts  by commenting in comment section . And one more thing,  don't forget  to share. 

Thanks  for reading !


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Tuesday, February 5, 2019

Definition of psychology

Definition of psychology

What actually psychology is ?


What will be your answer if someone ask you , what is psychology ?
You will probably say :

  • Science  of mind and behaviour.
  • Study of  human nature and behaviour .
  • Scientific study of the behaviour of humans and animals ....


In this article I am  going to explore what actually psychology is ? So let’s begin.

psychology is a  mixture of two Greek words psychi (spirit or soul) + logos ( knowledge, science or study) .

Like other sciences psychology is hard to define because it evolves continuously  that’s why the phenomena it studies can not be covered in one definition. It has been defined in different ways, all these ways  comes from different perspectives.

APA definition of psychology  :


Psychology is the study of the mind and behavior, according to the American Psychological Association. (APA) It is the study of the mind, how it works, and how it affects behaviour.

How psychology evolve into science of behaviour :

In beginning psychology was considered as science of soul , then science of mind , and in modern age it is known as science of behaviour .


What Psychology explore and study :

Psychology is a broad field that explore and study   personality, development ,behaviour, thoughts ,consciousness, motivation, memories, feelings ,fears , creativity, addictions and much more. Due to its  multifaceted discipline it includes many sub fields such as educational psychology, forensic  psychology, developmental psychology  , clinical psychology , industrial psychology,  social psychology,  cognitive psychology and more.
If I say that psychology is science of life it will not be wrong .Because it covers all most all area’s  of life .

Psychology is an art :

“Psychology is an art which presents itself as  science “.
~Eric pettifor

Seriously dealing with nonsense , Failures , heart breaks , negative thoughts is an art . And psychology gives you a chance to master this art .😊

What is psychology?
Psychology says 


“The study of human nature may be thought of as an art with many tools at it’s proposal , an art closely related to all the other arts , and relevant to them all , in literature and poetry particularly ,this is especially significant. It’s primary aim must be to broaden our knowledge of human beings , that is to say ,it must enable us all to become better, fuller and finer people.”
~Alfred Adler

 The mind is highly complexed thing no one can fully understand it . The functions  of all human brains are  same, but  we all react differently on same stimuli. Reason is we perceive,  feel and deal with  things differently .


What actually psychology is?
What actually psychology is ?


“Me : everything is ok
Is actually “ lie”
They tell me exaggerated stories of their life's tragedies
Is actually “lie”
It is all about perspective”
~Sadia Arshad

Ending note :

 In the end I must say psychology answer a simple question :


  • Why we do?
  • What we do ?


Give your feedback regarding what you think what actually psychology is ?
Thanks!


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Saturday, November 10, 2018

Psychology says

Psychology says
       
Updated : 9 December 2021

      

  Psychology says :



Psychology says
It is all about psychology


Some interesting facts and sayings about psychology :




Halo effect :

Psychology says :
Attractive people are perceived as more intelligent and trustworthy .Even if they are not . This is called the halo effect .


Attract others :

In short term you can attract people by your words , but in the long run your work (efforts) speak .


Engage yourself in some sort of activity 

People tend to be Happier when they are kept busy,as this prevent them from thinking 
About the negative things in their life. 

Constructive feelings :

In all feelings anger and love are most constructive and destructive feelings.


Dressing well :

The way you dressed is linked with your mood .So dressing well most often helps you keeping more stably happy.


Cherophobia :

Some people are actually afraid of being too happy , because they think something tragic is going to happen. This is known as cherophobia .


Power of mind :

your body hears  everything your mind says .
"The cells in your body react to every thing your mind says. So negativity brings down
Your immune system and you fall sick. "

Emotional & logical brain :

your emotional brain can not be controlled by your  logical brain .That's why we say love is blind .


Misapprehension 

Non apprehension of reality leads to misapprehension .


Brain activity after death :

when a person dies , they have seven minutes of brain activity left in which they see a dream like sequence of their memories.

You and life :

you and life are two different things or you yourself is life ?
you are life .Don't draw a line between you and life . Life include yourself your surroundings , the people around you , everything, if you are passionate about only yourself no one will like you , but if you are a type of person who can accommodate others in their  life  then people will surly like you.

(Gist of sandeep Mahashwari ‘s lecture )


Peace of mind : 

 Put question marks on your believes , that the problem bothering you , is really a problem or it’s just your imagination? That will bring your mind in peaceful situation.

(Gist of sandeep Mahashwari ‘s lecture )


I can and I will : 

It  is difficult to change your self  in a day But at least give it a try. "Rome was not built in a day”. Whatever the mind expects, it finds. Keep yourself constructively occupied.
Remember , I CAN and I WILL.


Smile :  😊

Smile. And smile some more. It adds to your face value and to your personality as well.


Enemy of truth :

Blind believe in authority is the enemy of truth.
 ( Albert Einstein )


Low self esteem : 

People  with low self esteem are more likely to criticise others .

feeling ignored :

Feeling ignored cause same chemical effect as that of injury.



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