Wednesday, August 7, 2019

Emotional wellness

What is Emotional wellness? 

Emotions are a necessary part of one’s  life. When you are attentive to both positive and negative emotions or feelings and able to understand how to handle these emotions. It means you are emotionally healthy  . Emotional wellness also includes the ability to learn and grow from experiences.

“Grow through what you go through.” 

How you are feeling from inside right now? 
If you are clam , content and feeling ok right now and feel ok most of the time . Then you are emotionally healthy. 

Emotional wellness quote, make sure you are fine from the inside too.
Emotional wellness quote

When you are emotionally healthy you generally feel good about yourself. Emotionally healthy people have flexibility , they can adjust in every situation. They acknowledged their emotions. They know how to manage and express themselves when they feel upset .

Emotional wellness inspires :

 self improvement, calmness ,help you out to manage your  stress and the development of inner strength. Allow your self to learn from your mistakes , and learning from your own mistakes is actually the best way to improve your self .
Emotional well-being also encourages proper decision making skills. It is an important part of overall wellness.

Emotional wellness is all about management :

Emotional wellness is not about how many problems you have in your life ,everyone has to face them on and off . It's more about how you approach and manage  the problems in life.

We all face difficulties in our life , but how we respond to these difficulties and problems matter more than that difficulty.
Your reaction to a problem is often a bigger problem than the problem.

It is hard to see the bright side during tough times, it is really challenging but whatever you are going through try to find out the ways that can help you to get rid of hard times.  It can only be possible if you are able to manage your emotions. 

Emotionally healthy people still feel sadness ,anger, stress , but they know how to manage their feelings. 

How to manage emotions? 

If you want to improve and maintain emotional health ,it  takes efforts and ongoing evaluation of your thoughts and feelings.
Ask questions from yourself :
  • How can I do things better or how can I manage this negative emotion? 
  • How can I learn from this to better my future? 
Improving emotions doesn’t happen overnight.
It’s important to be patient with yourself.

Remember what ever emotion you are experiencing is because you chose yourself to feel that way .you are the source of all your emotions. 
Your  thoughts  play  vital role in your emotion forming. So focus on good things .
Emotions can teach you value able lessons.  Be confident  that you can handle this emotion . Be confident that you can face any thing , because every thing happens for a reason and may be this reason can help you out to become a stronger individual.

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Friday, July 12, 2019

Psychology facts

Psychology facts :

What you are going to read in this post :
Psychology facts and sayings in urdu .


ماہر نفسیات کہتے ہیں کہ 98  فیصد زندگی کے حقائق انسان کی نظروں سے اوجھل ھوتے ہیں، اور یہ بھی ایک کرم ہے ۔ ۔ 
قاسم علی شاہ~


Psychology facts in urdu
Psychology facts in urdu 

ذہن تھک جائے تو مصروفیت 
کم کردیجیے    
 دل تھک جائے تو مصروفیت بڑھا دیجئے ۔ ۔ ۔


Psychology facts about attitude in urdu
Psychology facts in urdu 

  • سب سے خوبصورت اور صاف زبان رویوں کی ہوتی ہے ۔کچھ کہنا سننا بھی نہیں پڑتا .اور ساری بات سمجھ بھی آجاتی ہے۔

  • سخت رویے بات تو منوا دیتے ہیں مگر دلوں میں فاصلے بڑھ جاتے ہیں ،جب رہنا ساتھ ہوں تو دونوں طرف رویوں میں لچک ہونی چاہیے۔ کچھ منوا لیا کچھ مان گئے ،  یہ ہی مثبت رویے رشتوں میں تازگی کو برقرار رکھتے ہیں ۔ جہاں انا ہو وہاں صرف پچھتاوا اور تلخیاں ہوتی ہیں ۔ ۔ ۔

محبت الفاظ نہیں رویہ ہوتی ہے ۔


الفاظ جو بھی ہوں جیسے بھی ہوں ، لوگ مطلب ہمیشہ اپنی مرضی کا نکالتے ہیں ۔


لوگ ہر اس  مسئلے کا حل جانتے ہیں جو ان کا نہ ہو۔


  • انسان کا سب سے بڑا دشمن اس کا دماغ ہے۔ پکڑ پکڑ کے لاتا ہے ان لمحوں کو جو اذیت دیتے ہیں ۔

  • جتنا زیادہ سوچو گے ، اتنا زیادہ اذیت میں رہو گے،  یا تو اپنے آپ کو مضبوط کرلو، یا مصروف کر لو ۔


خوش ہونا ہے تو تعریف سنیے، اور بہترہونا ہے تو تنقید سنیے۔


 دلوں پر لفظ نہیں ۔۔۔۔۔ لہجے اثر کرتے ہیں ۔


Psychology facts about hope in urdu
Psychology fact about hope

لفظ "امید "کے سرکئی زندگیاں بگاڑنے کا الزام بھی ہے اور کئی سنوارنے کا سہرا بھی ۔ ۔ ۔


زندگی میں آگے بڑھنا ہے تو بہرے ہو جاو ، کیوں کہ بعض لوگوں کی باتیں مایوسی میں اضافہ کر دیتی ہیں ۔ ۔ ۔


Psychology facts about broken people in urdu
Body language reveals unspoken truths.

خاموشی کو سمجھنا سیکھو کیونکہ ، ٹوٹے ہوئے لوگ لفظوں کا استعمال نہیں کرتے۔ ۔ ۔

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Sunday, June 9, 2019

Psychology of fears

Updated : 25.June. 2019

Psychology of fear :

Faith, fear,psychology of fear, we must live by faith not by Fear.
We must live by faith , not by fear.

" Fear is the cheapest room in the house. 
I would like to see you living
In better condition. "

Quote image about fear , meaning of fear .
F.E.A.R = Face every thing and rise

Fear is one of the most powerful and primitive  emotion. It has strong effect on your mind and body.
child is born with no fears, except those of falling and loud noises. All other fears child  learn as he or she grows up.

Two major fears :

The two major fears we all develop are the fear of failure or loss and the fear of criticism or rejection . These two fears sometimes destroy our whole life. Specially when you get criticism and rejection from those who are really special for you  , or you did  a lot for them .

Physical and psychological fears :

There are two types of fear. When you do something and feel fear about that particular thing or act you want to do , then you have to know that there are two types of fear physical fear and psychological fear , so you have to plan for physical fear and leave psychological fear . you must know that there is no fear that can't be conquered.

What you’re afraid of and how you act when you’re afraid of something can vary per person. You can learn to feel less fearful and to cope with fear so that it doesn’t stop you from living.

Fear can be divided into two responses:
biochemical and emotional.

 The biochemical response is universal, while the emotional response is highly individual.

What is anxiety? 

Anxiety is a word often used by health professionals when they’re describing persistent fear. 
We use the word anxiety  for some types of fear that are usually to do with the thought of a threat or something going wrong in the future, rather than right now. 

Duration of fear and anxiety :

Fear and anxiety can last for a short time and then pass, but they can also last much longer and you can get stuck with them .

What is phobia? 

A Phobia is an extreme fear of a particular animal, thing, place or situation. People with phobias have an overwhelming need to avoid any contact with the specific cause of the anxiety or fear. 

The thought of coming into contact with the cause of the phobia makes you anxious or panicky.

Fear is a healthy emotion  :

 Fear is an unavoidable fact of the human experience. While fear sounds bad, but it can actually be used as a positive emotion. 
 Fear uses consequences to drive people into action. Like fear of getting fired, serves you as a way to keep you productively moving towards specific goals, or tasks .

Psychology of fear, other side of every fear is Freedom.
Other side of every fear is FREEDOM.

Fear can create strong signals of response when we’re in emergencies ,like if we are caught in a fire or are being attacked , in this situation fear is a natural response to a threat.   If in  this way we see fear (physical fear )  it is actually healthy and helpful. Because through this awareness (fear) you can plan to deal the situation which is causing fear .

All psychological fears, like facing public,  fear of defeat in something,  fear of future, fear of criticism or rejection,  all these types of fears can be conquered through your willpower and confidence.

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Sunday, May 5, 2019

How to be Confident

How to be Confident? 

Confidence quotes,  how to be Confident, first love yourself.
First love yourself. 

Being an introvert I am a shy person . I don’t know all Introverts are shy or not , but in my case ? 
Yes , I’m. 

 There are lots of reasons behind my shyness, and I always try to overcome it ,  in this article I am going to tell you some reasons of shyness  how to overcome shyness, and how to be Confident  ? And definitely I'm going to share some quotes about Confidence. 

So , here are some reasons of shyness :

1: Don’t try to be right all the time :

I always  try to be right. So I talk less because I thought if  I say something wrong, what people will think about me ?
They might think how dumb I am? 
 Then I realise,  We are human so I should try to give myself  benefit of the doubt. I can’t  be right all the time .

Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.

 ~ Peter T. Mcintyre

2: Please don’t be a people pleaser :

I always try to please everyone. But through all my experiences I learned, you can’t  even please a single person fully.  They will judge you , say bad about you , no matter how hard you try to please them so, do  what is right ,regardless of other people’s opinion about you. 

The fear of disapproval from others destroy your confidence. 

Your strength lies in accepting yourself as you are , not in material things around you .And you don’t even need others approval. 

How to be Confident, confidence quotes, don't look your strengths outside.
Don’t look your strengths outside, they are within you. 

I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence, but it comes from within. It is there all the time. 

~ Anna Freud

3: Don’t panic :

I used to get stressed and panic on even small issues , it’s because I learned it through modelling , I saw my elders getting panic on useless things. 

“When we are stressed we tend to do stupid things to ourselves.”

 ~Lisa Lieberman-Wang

4: Don’t fear disapprovals :

Fearing about disapprovals ,  losing something or someone , or any other kind of fear  are killers of your  confidence.   Be ok with or without any thing . After God , you are good enough for your self. 
By facing fear we gain strength and confidence. 

5: Don’t feel yourself inferior :

 Don’t think you are inferior ,  because other think you can’t do something they are master at , hey , stop  pitying you have your own strengths , your own skills , may be they don’t have them  .

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

 ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Why some people are too confident ?

Some characteristics of confident people :

1: Self  believe :

Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.
~ Lao Tzu

2: They Love their self :

To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don’t wait until you die. If you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now. 
~Alan Cohen

Remember to F.L.Y.= First Love Yourself . This is the key to be confident. 

3: They have good relationship with themselves :

 If you want to improve your relationships with those around you, start with your own. 

4: They respect their self  :

Don’t forget to give yourself respect as you always try to give to others. 

Don’t think I am super confident now ,  I am still struggling. But l thought I should share it with those who are also struggling like me . 
Thanks for reading!  
Stay blessed  

Monday, April 15, 2019

Body language

Updated : July  5 , 2019

 “A species’ survival depends critically upon its ability to communicate effectively, and the quality of its social life is determined in large measure by how and what it can communicate.”
~Robert M. Krauss 

Non verbal communication, Listen to a person  When they look at you , not just when they  are talking to you.
Listen to a person When they look at you .

Body language or non verbal communication :

Communication is not only what you say or hear . Your eye gaze, hand movements, sitting and standing styles, facial expressions all these things include in communication. And this communication is known as Body language or non verbal communication. 
Non-verbal communication includes :
facial expressions, the tone and pitch of the voice, and gestures displayed through body language.

What body language reveals :

 It can often tell people exactly how you feel, even if you have hardly said a word. Body language is the unspoken element of communication. Body language isn’t always as clear as spoken language , But it reveal  a lot about people .It reveals our true feelings and emotions.  .Understanding  about body language can help to interpret unspoken issues. The things we don’t say still convey volumes of information. 

Non verbal communication or body language, what body language reveals? Image
Body language reveals unspoken truths. 

Communication through body language :

Some estimates suggest that 7 percent we communicate through words and 93 percent nonverbally or through our body language .
But some studies says that body language may account for between 50 percent to 70 percent of all communication. 
Different studies show different results, but whatever they show , it is truth that body language reveal more abut people than verbal language. 

Facial expressions :

Facial expressions are among the most universal forms of body language. The expressions used to convey fear, anger, sadness, and happiness are similar throughout the world.

Learn to read eyes, because lips often lie .
Learn  to read eyes because lips often lie. 


Posture can convey a wealth of information about how a person is feeling as well as hints about personality characteristics, such as whether a person is confident, open, or submissive.
People tend to have much less conscious control over their nonverbal messages than of what they actually saying .Because nonverbal communication is  much more emotional in nature .

Body language or non verbal communication, let us hear your body talk.
Body language reveal more than words.

Non-verbal communication may also be both conscious and unconscious. Facial expressions are particularly hard to control, because we cannot see ourselves to know what we are doing. We may, therefore complicate communication by trying to convey one message consciously, while in fact conveying quite another unconsciously.

Michael Argyle identifies 

Five main functions of non-verbal communication:

  •  To express emotions, 
  • Communicate interpersonal relationships
  • Support verbal interaction
  • Reflect personality 
  •  Perform rituals, such as greetings and goodbyes.

How to enhance verbal and non verbal communication :

 Verbal communication is enhanced when a person is an effective listener. Listening doesn’t simply mean hearing; it means  understanding another person’s point of view.

Watching other people’s body language, facial expressions and intonations, and being conscious of your own physicality and feelings can enhance non-verbal communication.
Copy the people you are spending time with and you want to attract them, this strategy is called mirroring .When talking to someone try to copy their facial expressions , gestures and body language.

Maintain eye contact with those who you want to attract. Follow 80/20 rule while talking to someone.  It means ,maintain 80 percent eye contact and 20 percent you can see your surroundings.

Carry a decent smile  . It improves your face value.

Make sure your body language is open ,(No close arms, or cross feet) it indicates that you are relaxed, calm, and confident .

However , the same gesture can indicate a number of different things depending on context.

Our success as an individuals depends upon our ability to effectively communicate, both verbally and non-verbally.

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Thursday, April 4, 2019

What are emotions?

Updated :13 April 2019

What are emotions? 

Most of the time we don’t have exact words to explain what we are actually  feeling . And it is quite difficult to differentiate emotions and feelings. 
The words “emotions, feelings, and moods” are often used interchangeably. But actually they are not the  same . Emotions are related to, but different from, mood ..

 Emotions :

  are specific physical reactions to a particular event. Their general purpose is to produce involuntary bodily response to a stimulus. That are usually of fairly short duration. 
No matter how friendly and caring a person you are , or you want to be, your brain keep saying you things that aren’t so kind when your emotions are triggered

The brain responds to stimuli long before your conscious brain can choose. Your immediate reactions often produce bad results and then instead of trying to undo what happened, you quickly find reasons to justify your behaviour.
If you want to manage your emotions,  start looking inside instead of outside .

Psychologists identify twenty-seven Categories of emotion: 

Admiration, adoration, aesthetic appreciation, amusement, anger, anxiety, awe, awkwardness, boredom, calmness, confusion, contempt, craving, disappointment, disgust, empathic pain, entrancement, envy, excitement, fear, guilt, horror, interest, joy, nostalgia, pride, relief, romance, sadness, satisfaction, sexual desire, surprise, sympathy and triumph.

Five main purposes of emotions : 

Emotions help us
  •  To take action.
  •  To survive.
  • Strike and avoid danger.
  • To make decisions.
  •  To understand others. Moreover, they help other people to understand us.

~Kendra Cherry (Psychology Expert)


are mental associations and reactions to an emotion. They are coloured by our personal experiences and believes. 

When you say, "I feel anxious, angry, happy...", you are interpreting emotion by how it feels in your body.

Types of feelings :
There are only three types of feelings

  • pleasant
  • Unpleasant
  •  Neutral

What are emotions, difference between emotions and feelings, list of emotions and feelings.
Feelings vs emotions  

Is Feelings and emotions are the same thing? 

In response to specific stimuli The emotion comes first and it  is universal. What kind of feelings it will then become varies from person to person and from situation to situation because feelings are shaped by individual temperament and experience. 
 Emotions are event-driven, while feelings are learned behaviours .

  • Joy is an emotion. 

Happiness is a feeling. 
  • Fear is an emotion. 

Worry is a feeling. 
  • Enthusiasm is an emotion. 

Contentment is a feeling.
  • Anger is an emotion.

Bitterness is a feeling.
  • Attraction is an emotion.

Love is a feeling.

Expressing all types of emotions, even negative emotions, is natural and healthy.

Ending words :

An event or  stimulus cause emotions and emotions cause feelings .But same emotions generate different feelings in different people. 

I hope now you can fully understand emotions , and differentiate emotions and feelings well .

Thanks for reading! 

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Wednesday, March 27, 2019

Self help

Updated : 21 July 2019

Self help tips :

It is easy to change your environment than your circumstances. But is changing  or escaping from your present situation  gives you guarantee of your desired situation???? .  . .

And the answer is “No ”.

If you want to change some thing in your life , start changing your inside, "In order to be able to change some thing you must face it ".
Don’t depend too much on others . Make your inner world strong , because most of the time, you actually know the solutions but you don’t  take a step forward to solve the issue. 

Reason ????

Here are some obstacles in achieving your goals , that also cease your self growth. 
  •  You most of the time confined  yourself in your  limited believes. 
  • You confined yourself in negative useless thoughts .
  • Confined in  fear of failure , 
  • Insecurities of present and future,
  • Blind believes in authority,
  • Too much  Rely on others  so on . .

Remember,  beneath your fears great opportunities lie . .
And opportunities dance with those who are already dancing on the dance floor. .

Take a step forward , take the responsibility of your life . You are the ceo of your life.
So, Give time to your goals ,pay attention to your instincts.
"Your only limit is You ".
The only thing stopping you , is you .
“You are your master. Only you have the master keys to open the inner locks.”

If you Want to achieve something, or want to solve any issue do work for it 
I know  it is not a one day process. But “Small changes add up to big changes .”

Self help tips, motivational quotes, life is not a coincidence, it is mirror of your own deeds.
God help those who help themselves. 

Life is not a coincidence, it is mirror of your own deeds,
So don’t let your thoughts, words and deeds let you bleed. 
“What you allow is what you continue .”

Don’t force people to acknowledge your existence, if they really know your worth they will stay with you .If they don't notice that you really exist , never  force them .Expect from yourself only .

Be responsible of every decision you make every  action you  take . Don’t blame others  .  Blaming others is also an escape from your flaws. Just do your work ,Some times you will win ,sometimes you will  learn .

Thinking the same thing will not give you new solutions. Old ways not lead you towards new success. Think out of the box .

Self help tips, motivational quotes, happiness is a habit,  cultivate  it .
Self help is the  best help. 

Be happy with what you have.
 “Find happiness first ,then  success will come .”Find happiness in small, little things . And remember happiness is an inside
job . 
No one can really  make you happy until or unless you find your own ways to make yourself happy .Until or unless you decide to be happy. 
Your happiness is your responsibility don't expect it from others.

I will keep  updating , these kind of self help tips, make sure you keep visiting my blog . And give your feedback back in comment section below. 
Thanks for reading!