Sunday, May 5, 2019

How to be Confident

Updated : 29 June 2020

How to be Confident? 

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First love yourself. 

Being an introvert I am a shy person . I don’t know all Introverts are shy or not , but in my case ? 
Yes , I’m. 

 There are lots of reasons behind my shyness, and I always try to overcome it ,  in this article I am going to tell you some reasons of shyness  how to overcome shyness, and how to be Confident  ? And definitely I'm going to share some quotes about Confidence. 

So , here are some reasons of shyness :

1: Don’t try to be right all the time :

I always try to be right. So I talk less because I think if  I say something wrong, what people will think about me ?
They might think how dumb I am? 
 Then I realise,  We are human so I should try to give myself  benefit of the doubt. I can’t  be right all the time .

Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.

 ~ Peter T. Mcintyre

2: Please don’t be a people pleaser :

I always try to please everyone. But through all my experiences I learned, you can’t  even please a single person fully.  
What’s wrong with pleasing everyone is that it can’t be done, and that in attempting to do so , you lose yourself.
People will judge you , say bad about you , no matter how hard you try to please them so, do  what is right ,regardless of other people’s opinion about you. 

The fear of disapproval from others destroy your confidence. 

Your strength lies in accepting yourself as you are , not in material things around you .And you don’t even need others approval. 

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Don’t look your strengths outside, they are within you. 

I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence, but it comes from within. It is there all the time. 

~ Anna Freud

3: Don’t panic :

I used to get stressed and panic on even small issues , it’s because I learned it through modelling , I saw my elders getting panic on useless things. 

“When we are stressed we tend to do stupid things to ourselves.”

 ~Lisa Lieberman-Wang

4: Don’t fear disapprovals :

Fearing about disapprovals ,  losing something or someone , or any other kind of fear  are killers of your  confidence.   Be ok with or without any thing . After God , you are good enough for your self. 
By facing fear we gain strength and confidence. 

5: Don’t feel yourself inferior :

 Don’t think you are inferior ,  because other think you can’t do something they are master at , hey , stop  pitying you have your own strengths , your own skills , may be they don’t have them  .

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

 ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Why some people are too confident ?

Some characteristics of confident people :

1: Self  believe :

Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.
~ Lao Tzu

2: They Love their self :

To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don’t wait until you die. If you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now. 
~Alan Cohen

Remember to F.L.Y.= First Love Yourself . This is the key to be confident. 

3: They have good relationship with themselves :

 If you want to improve your relationships with those around you, start with your own. 

4: They respect their self  :

Don’t forget to give yourself respect as you always try to give to others. 

Don’t think I am super confident now ,  I am still struggling. But l thought I should share it with those who are also struggling like me . 
Thanks for reading!  
Stay blessed