What are emotions?

Updated :24 Jan 2023 

What are emotions? 

Most of the time we don’t have exact words to explain what we are actually  feeling . And it is quite difficult to differentiate emotions and feelings. 

The words “emotions, feelings, and moods” are often used interchangeably. But actually they are not the  same . Emotions are related to, but different from, mood ..

Are emotions and feeling both the same thing?

Emotions are a physiological response to a stimulus, such as happiness, anger, or fear. They are relatively short-lived and specific to a particular event or situation. Feelings, on the other hand, are the conscious experience of emotions and can be more long-lasting and broader in scope. Feelings may also include thoughts, beliefs, and judgments about an emotion.

 Emotions :

  are specific physical reactions to a particular event. Their general purpose is to produce involuntary bodily response to a stimulus. That are usually of fairly short duration. 

No matter how friendly and caring a person you are , or you want to be, your brain keep saying you things that aren’t so kind when your emotions are triggered. 

The brain responds to stimuli long before your conscious brain can choose. Your immediate reactions often produce bad results and then instead of trying to undo what happened, you quickly find reasons to justify your behaviour.

If you want to manage your emotions,  start looking inside instead of outside .

Psychologists identify twenty-seven Categories of emotion: 

Admiration, adoration, aesthetic appreciation, amusement, anger, anxiety, awe, awkwardness, boredom, calmness, confusion, contempt, craving, disappointment, disgust, empathic pain, entrancement, envy, excitement, fear, guilt, horror, interest, joy, nostalgia, pride, relief, romance, sadness, satisfaction, sexual desire, surprise, sympathy and triumph.

Five main purposes of emotions : 

Emotions help us

•  To take action.
•  To survive.
• Strike and avoid danger.
• To make decisions.
•  To understand others. Moreover, they help other people to understand us.

~Kendra Cherry (Psychology Expert)

Feelings : 

are mental associations and reactions to an emotion. They are coloured by our personal experiences and believes. 


When you say, "I feel anxious, angry, happy...", you are interpreting emotion by how it feels in your body.

Types of feelings :
There are only three types of feelings

• pleasant
• Unpleasant
•  Neutral

Feelings vs emotions  

Is Feelings and emotions are the same thing? 

In response to specific stimuli The emotion comes first and it  is universal. What kind of feelings it will then become varies from person to person and from situation to situation because feelings are shaped by individual temperament and experience. 

 Emotions are event-driven, while feelings are learned behaviours .

• Joy is an emotion. 

Happiness is a feeling. 

• Fear is an emotion. 

Worry is a feeling. 

• Enthusiasm is an emotion. 

Contentment is a feeling.

• Anger is an emotion.

Bitterness is a feeling.

• Attraction is an emotion.

Love is a feeling.



Expressing all types of emotions, even negative emotions, is natural and healthy.

Ending words :

An event or  stimulus cause emotions and emotions cause feelings .But same emotions generate different feelings in different people. 

I hope now you can fully understand emotions , and differentiate emotions and feelings well .

Thanks for reading! 

Sources :

https://www.laughteronlineuniversity.com/feelings-and-emotions/

https://inpowercoaching.com/tame-your-emotional-triggers/

https://imotions.com/blog/emotions-matter/

Self help

Updated : 30 March 2021

Self help tips :

It is easy to change your environment than your circumstances. But is changing  or escaping from your present situation  gives you guarantee of your desired situation???? .  . .

And the answer is a big “No ”.

If you want to change something in your life , start changing your inside, "In order to be able to change something you must face it ".
Don’t depend too much on others . Make your inner world strong , because most of the time, you actually know the solutions but you don’t  take a step forward to solve the issue. 

Reason ????

Here are some obstacles in achieving your goals , that also cease your self growth. 

•  You most of the time confined  yourself in your  limited believes. 
• You confined yourself in negative useless thoughts .
• Confined in  fear of failure , 
• Insecurities of present and future,
• Blind believes in authority,
• Too much  Rely on others  so on . .

Remember,  beneath your fears great opportunities lie . .

And opportunities dance with those who are already dancing on the dance floor. .

Take a step forward , take the responsibility of your Life.. You are the ceo of your life.
So, Give time to your goals ,pay attention to your instincts.
"Your only limit is You ".
The only thing stopping you , is you .
“You are your master. Only you have the master keys to open the inner locks.”

If you Want to achieve something, or want to solve any issue do work for it 

I know  it is not a one day process. But “Small changes add up to big changes .”

Give importance to your personal development 

God help those who help themselves. 

Life is not a coincidence, it is mirror of your own deeds,

So don’t let your thoughts, words and deeds let you bleed. 

“What you allow is what you continue .”

Don’t force people to acknowledge your existence, if they really know your worth they will stay with you .If they don't notice that you really exist , never  force them. Expect from yourself only .

There is no perfection you can give that will make somebody stay where they don't want to be. You can't keep what doesn't want o be kept. Value yourself.

Other people liking you is a bonus. 

You liking yourself is the real prize. 

Be responsible of every decision you make every  action you  take . Don’t blame others.  Blaming others is also an escape from your flaws. Just do your work ,Sometimes you will win, sometimes you will  learn .

"No one saves us but ourselves , No one can and No one may."

~ BUDDHA  

Thinking the same thing will not give you new solutions. Old ways not lead you towards new success. Think out of the box .

Self help is the  best help. 

Be happy with what you have.

 “Find happiness  first ,then  success will come.”

Find happiness in small, little things . 

 remember happiness is an inside
job . 

No one can really  make you happy until or unless you find your own ways to make yourself happy .Until or unless you decide to be happy. 

Your happiness is your responsibility don't expect it from others.

Love yourself enough to surround yourself to people who love and respect you. The company you keep is reflection how you feel about yourself. 

I will keep  updating , these kind of self help tips, make sure you keep visiting my blog . And give your feedback back in comment section below. 

Thanks for reading!

Right brain vs left brain

Left brain right brain theory :

The brain contains two hemispheres each  hemisphere perform a number of

 functions .

These hemispheres are called right brain and left brain. The two sides of the brain communicate with one another through  corpus callosum.

Functions of right and left brain :

The left side of the brain is responsible for controlling the right side of your body .And right side of the brain is responsible for controlling left side of your body . That's why damage to the left side of the brain, might have an effect on the right side of the body. 

I am right brain :

 I’m creative, I’m ,imaginative I think a lot  (holistic thinking)

some times I feel things before it happen (intuition) I love rhyming and rhythms,  l feel things deeply ( feelings) I  can visualise things . I believe more in nonverbal things .

some times I start daydreaming you know why???  because my Right brain dominate left brain.

I am Left brain:

Deal with logic , analysis , Mathematics , languages , thinking in words , computation  .

People who use left and right brain together or equally are  genius and happy. 

Right brain vs left brain image
 source :

Vision board blog

Left brain ,right brain theory is myth :

Later research has shown that the brain is not nearly as divided into two parts  as once thought. For example, research has shown that abilities in subjects such as math are strongest when both halves of the brain work together. Today, neuroscientists know that the two sides of the brain collaborate to perform a broad variety of tasks and that the two hemispheres communicate through the corpus callosum.

“It’s absolutely true that some brain functions occur in one or the other side of the brain. Language tends to be on the left, attention more on the right. But people don’t tend to have a stronger left- or right-sided brain network."  

~Dr. Jeff Anderson. 

 While the idea of right brain/left brain thinkers has been revealed, its popularity still persists. 

Logical and imaginative brain :

Humans have 1/3 logical brain ,2/3 imaginative brain. 

Weight and connections of human brain :

It’s weight is approximately 3 pounds, it contains about 100 billion neurons, and 100 trillion connections.

Some facts about human brain :

• 60% of your brain is composed of fat , making it most fattiest organ  of body.  
• Your heart and brain are composed of  73%  of water .
• The brain comprises about 2% of the body’s weight but it  consume 20% of it’s energy. 

Ending note :

By understanding functions of  your left brain and right brain’s weaknesses and strengths you can improve your wellbeing ,  and performance. 

source :

1: Left brain vs. right brain :

https://www.verywellmind.com

2:drinkbrainbean

https://www.instagram.com/drinkbrainbean/

How to control your negative thoughts?

Updated : 22 August 2021

In this article you are going to read how to control or overcome negative thoughts. 

 Quote on thinking by William James

There is a law in Psychology   that if you form a picture in your mind of what you would like to be, and you keep and hold that picture there long enough, you will soon become exactly as you have been thinking.

~William James

Your thoughts define you :

Your believes and thoughts define your whole existence. You don’t really live in reality,  your thoughts create  your reality. 

Thoughts are  generally shaped by genetics,  life  experiences , education, environment,  the company you keep , the stuff you read . . .
"Every thought we think is creating our future."

Your thoughts have power :

Your thoughts and  believes  have power to change your physiology and neurology. Your thoughts can make you feel  powerful or powerless. The thoughts you hold become things . "The quality of your thinking determines
 the quality of your life ".

Be kind to yourself. 

How many thoughts you have per day :

Scientists estimated that humans have about 70,000 thoughts per day.

That means  you have  about 70,000 chances to change your life per day ,

 by   changing  and controlling your negative  thoughts.

 But question is , how to control your negative thoughts?  

Don’t let your thoughts control you. 

1:  Be aware of your thoughts , you can save yourself from  it’s adverse effects by keeping yourself constructively occupied  or by diverting your thoughts to something positive. Take care of your thoughts 
You think about every thing but not about your thoughts.
Don’t  host your own pity party , by thinking negative.  So be kind to your mind , you deserve good things , take the first step to change your whole existence  by changing your negative thought in to positive one.

"The mind is its own place and in itself, can make Heaven of Hell, a Hell of Heaven."

~John Milton  

Be kind to yor mind , don't be the victim of your  negative thoughts .

2: What I believe controlling your thoughts are not much difficult as compare to facing negative people around you. 

 So try to avoid negative people, those who have problem for every solution. Because their vibes vibrate (provoke) your negative thoughts. 

But problem is , you have to deal with these type of people often in your life so what to do ?

I don’t exactly know  what should be done in such a situation ?  But what I think, believe, and learned from my experiences , listen to them and agree with them , but deep down  hold on your beliefs and positivity.  

3: learn something new every day. That will help you to overcome thoughts of uselessness. It could be as little as opening a new level of a game.  There are lots of free educational apps on Google play store  that will help you grow, and increase your knowledge. 

4: Spend time with like minded people. 
It will help to maintain your positivity and believe that still good people exist.

Surroundyourself with :

• The inspired. 
• The motivated. 
• The open minded. 
• The passionate. 
• The great full. 

Be so busy  with these five , so you wouldn't have any time to pay attention on the negativity , haters and negative people are spreading.

5:  Don't believe everything you think .
Even having negative thoughts is  not a problem, actually problem is you believe them.
Remember,  perception is always greater than reality. What you think might be merely your perception , it could be wrong . So why so serious? 

There are so many other  ways .You only need “will power”  to do any thing .

 These above ideas I personally use , you can tell me your ideas regarding how you control or  overcome your negative thoughts  by commenting in comment section . And one more thing,  don't forget  to share. 

Thanks  for reading !

Also read :

Definition of psychology

Psychology says

Highly sensitive people

Updated : 19 July  2019


In this article you are going to read how highly sensitive people think and feel . And some problems faced by highly sensitive people in urdu language.

   Highly sensitive people

      Image source : Google 

                                

  : Being highly sensitive   

Characteristics of highly sensitive people 

Image source :  Introverts planet


مکتب عشق کا دستور نرالا  دیکھا
اس کو چھٹی نہ ملی جس نے سبق یاد کیا ۔ ۔ ۔

maktab-e-ishq ka dastoor nirala dekha uss ko chutti na mili jis ne sabaq yaad kiya

زندگی کا دستور بھی ایسا ہی ہے ، اس میں بھی ہر مخلص ، اور حساس بندا ہی ہمیشہ زیر عتاب رہتا ہے ۔
نہ تو لوگ انہیں ریاعت دینے کو تیار ہوتے ہیں نہ ان کا ضمیر انہیں کسی قسم کی ریاعت دیتا ہے۔

مجھے لگتا ھے انسان کو وہ سب کرلینا چاہیے ، جو وہ کرنا 

چاہتا ہے ۔ ۔ ۔

ورنہ وہ سب کرنا پڑتا ہے جودوسرے چاہ  رہے ہوتے ہیں ۔ ساری زندگی آپ لوگوں کی توقعات پوری کرنے میں گزار دیتے ہیں اور نتیجتاً، نہ تو آپ خود خوش رہ  پاتے ہیں 

نہ دوسروں کو رکھ پاتےہیں ۔ 

اپنی خواہشات مار مار کر آپ ایک مشین  بن جاتےہیں ،خواہشات  سے عاری مشین ۔۔۔ 

اور لوگوں کی توقعات ختم ہونے کا نام ہی نہیں لیتں ۔۔۔

آپ ساری زندگی دوسروں کو عزت دیتے دیتے یہ بھول جاتے ہیں ، کہ آپ بھی محترم ہیں آپ کی بھی کچھ خواہشات اور توقعات ہیں ۔۔۔ اور کچھ ضروریات بھی۔ ۔ ۔

مگر فرق کس کو پڑتا ہے ۔ ۔ ۔ 

Highly sensitive people’s characteristics 

اگر آپ خود اپنا خیال نہیں رکھیں گے تو یہ مت سوچیے کہ کوئی دوسرا آکے آپ کے لیے کچھ کرے گا ۔۔۔۔

آپ کی یہ زندگی سو فیصد آپ کی ذمہ داری ہے ۔ ۔ ۔۔

مگر مسئلہ یہ ہے کہ 

"ہر کسی کی آواز پر لبیک کہنے والے دل کی آواز پر سر ، منہ لپیٹ کر سوتے بن جاتےہیں ۔"
(سعدیہ)

حساس لوگ جتنی بھی تقریریں سن لیں ، اقوال زریں پڑھ لیں ۔ ان کی بناوٹ اور ساخت ایسی ہوتی ہے کہ وہ دوسروں کے دل توڑنا نہیں چاہتے 

اور اپنے  ٹکڑوں (دل کے) کو سنبھالنے میں ہلکان ہوئے پھرتے ہیں ۔۔ 

میں نے حساس لوگوں کو بہت کم اندر سے خوش دیکھا ہے۔ 

خود میں  اتنی ہمت پیدا کرو ،کہ  جو کرنا چاہتے ہو کر جاو ورنہ

اپنی ناکام حسرتوں کا بوجھ خود اٹھانا پڑتا ہے۔ 

لوگوں سے توقعات رکھنا بیکار ہے ۔ کیونکہ اکثر و بیشتر ہم غلط لوگوں سےغلط توقعات وابستہ کرلیتے ہیں ۔

 غلط لوگوں سے توقعات رکھنا بالکل  ایسے ہی ہے جیسے  ہم نوکیا 3310 سے سامسنگ گیلکسی کی خصوصیات چاہ رہے ہوں۔

ایک چیز میں وہ خصوصیات تلاش کرنا جو اس میں ہے ہی نہیں سراسر حماقت ہے ۔

اسی طرح حساس لوگوں کو یہ درس دینا کہ وہ صرف دل 

کی سنیں، بھاڑ میں جائے دنیا ۔ ۔ سراسر حماقت ہے ۔

کوشش کیا کرو کہ لوگوں کو معاف کردیا کرو،  لوگوں 

کی مجبوریاں ہوتی ہیں ۔  کچھ اپنے سوا کسی کو خوش نہیں رکھ سکتے، اور کچھ سب کو خوش رکھنا چاہتے ہیں ۔ اور ایسے میں خود کو فراموش کر دیتے ہیں ۔

 "وفا ہر کسی کے بس کا روگ نہیں ہے،  اور بے وفائی کا حوصلہ بھی کسی کسی کے پاس ہوتا ہے ۔"
(نامعلوم)

 Allama Iqbal poetry 

 "کبھی کبھی مجھے لگتا ہے کہ اچھے لوگوں کے کوئی  حقوق نہیں ہوتے صرف فرائض ہوتے ہیں  "

(سعدیہ )

اور وہ یہ کہہ کہ خود کو تسلی دیتے ہیں. . .

•   کہ چلو کوئی بات نہیں،  لوگوں نے تو جو ہمارے ساتھ کیا سو کیا کم از کم ہم نے کسی کے ساتھ برا نہیں کیا ۔
• کوئی بات نہیں ،ان تمام ناکامیوں نے مجھے مضبوط بھی تو بنایا ہے ،
• ان مشکلات سے مجھے بہت کچھ سیکھنے کو ملا، 
• شاید اسی میں بہتری ہو،
• شاید تم کسی چیز کو پسند کرو اور تمہاری بھلائی اس میں نہ ہو۔ (سورہ بقرہ )

• اور یہ کہ" دنیا مومن کے لئیے قید خانہ ہے ،اور کافر کے لیے جنت۔"(صحیح مسلم 2956  )

• "اگر آپ ایماندار اور سچے انسان ہیں تو آنے والے بظاہر بے وجہ مسائل میں بھی کوئی نہ کوئی کرم کا پہلو مل جائے گا ۔" ( قاسم علی شاہ  )
• اور یقین جانو کہ عنقریب تمہارا پروردگار تمہیں اتنا دے گا کہ تم خوش ہو جاؤ گے۔ (سورۃ الضحٰی) 

  : Image source  Towards eternity

خود کو دی گئی ایسی مثالوں کے بعد دل بہل جاتا ہے ۔ ۔

اور کیوں نہ بہلے" وہ اپنے وعدے کے خلاف نہیں کرتا" ۔ ۔ ۔۔

Definition of psychology

What actually psychology is ?

What will be your answer if someone ask you , what is psychology ?

You will probably say :

• Science  of mind and behaviour.
• Study of  human nature and behaviour .
• Scientific study of the behaviour of humans and animals ....

In this article I am  going to explore what actually psychology is ? So let’s begin.

psychology is a  mixture of two Greek words psychi (spirit or soul) + logos ( knowledge, science or study) .

Like other sciences psychology is hard to define because it evolves continuously  that’s why the phenomena it studies can not be covered in one definition. It has been defined in different ways, all these ways  comes from different perspectives.

APA definition of psychology  :

Psychology is the study of the mind and behavior, according to the American Psychological Association. (APA) It is the study of the mind, how it works, and how it affects behaviour.

How psychology evolve into science of behaviour :

In beginning psychology was considered as science of soul , then science of mind , and in modern age it is known as science of behaviour .

What Psychology explore and study :

Psychology is a broad field that explore and study   personality, development ,behaviour, thoughts ,consciousness, motivation, memories, feelings ,fears , creativity, addictions and much more. Due to its  multifaceted discipline it includes many sub fields such as educational psychology, forensic  psychology, developmental psychology  , clinical psychology , industrial psychology,  social psychology,  cognitive psychology and more.

If I say that psychology is science of life it will not be wrong .Because it covers all most all area’s  of life .

Psychology is an art :

“Psychology is an art which presents itself as  science “.

~Eric pettifor

Seriously dealing with nonsense , Failures , heart breaks , negative thoughts is an art . And psychology gives you a chance to master this art .😊

Psychology says 

“The study of human nature may be thought of as an art with many tools at it’s proposal , an art closely related to all the other arts , and relevant to them all , in literature and poetry particularly ,this is especially significant. It’s primary aim must be to broaden our knowledge of human beings , that is to say ,it must enable us all to become better, fuller and finer people.”

~Alfred Adler

 The mind is highly complexed thing no one can fully understand it . The functions  of all human brains are  same, but  we all react differently on same stimuli. Reason is we perceive,  feel and deal with  things differently .

What actually psychology is ?

“Me : everything is ok

Is actually “ lie”

They tell me exaggerated stories of their life's tragedies

Is actually “lie”

It is all about perspective”

~Sadia Arshad

Ending note :

 In the end I must say psychology answer a simple question :

• Why we do?
• What we do ?

Give your feedback regarding what you think what actually psychology is ?

Thanks!

Also read :

Psychology says